Thursday, April 4, 2013

Four Years

I went to a small college in Mississippi that didn't really have sororities, but we had an equivalent known as social clubs. And one of the things that social clubs did was sing class songs in the cafeteria when they were pledging. Something that was both enduring and annoying.  When it was time for the senior song, the underclassmen would get down on their knees, & salute the standing seniors while they sang, "Four Years We've Been Here, Now We're the Finest. We are on Top Now. Hail to the Senior Class!"

This little anecdote is all to say that today is our four year wedding anniversary. And I think four years is somewhat like the senior year of marriage. Just like the first day of your senior year, we are going into our fourth year knowing a whole heck of a lot about marriage & each other. We know what makes each other tick, we knows what each other likes, and what each other hates. We know how to avoid pushing the other person's button. And Adam knows when I'm cranky that I may just need to eat or take a nap!

I feel like we have left those awkward growing pains of the freshmen years of marriage in the dust. At least the awkwardness, that comes from merging two lives and defining what your life is going to be together. I remember in the early days, even after we were first married, I would hate if we would go out to eat and we just didn't have much to talk about. I would get so insecure that it meant we were bored with each other.  Or when we had our first few fights my paranoia would make me worry that it just might take us down.

Now I can appreciate that the occasional silence, only represents a comfort with each other and not a sign of disinterest. And now I take any fight we have in vain because I know ultimately it will all just blow over. 

But I'm not saying there are no new challenges for us to face because there are. Soon we will become home owners, which will offer its own set of challenges. And we are hoping to start a family of our own someday soon. But I look at those life experiences as another way to grow together. Because I think that is what marriage is about, growth.  I truly believe that if the person you are with doesn't make you a better person than why are you with them? Adam makes me a better person, and I hope I make him one.

The one thing I know for sure is we are so much better together than we are apart and these four years have been wonderful.

I just can't wait to see what the next four years will bring.


  1. Yay for 4 years of marriage and wishing you many more :)

  2. Yay for 4 years under your belts. I am so excited for the future and what's in store for you both. I think you said it beautifully, about how the silences mean comfort, and how the growing pains are in the past. I feel that way as I come up on our 3rd anniversary. Here's to many more years of growing as a couple, and for having found that special someone to grow old with!


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